1. Ch. 3 begins with a definition of a “magnanimous heart.” Are there other words you would use or ways in which you would define or describe a magnanimous heart?

2. How did you react to the Liebenson’s teacher saying that “There is no such thing as loss”? Did you find it cold or cruel? What do you think the teacher meant?

3. Do you agree with the Liebenson’s statement that “loss is simply the irrefutable fact of change.” If you agree, what does it mean to you? If not, how would you define or explain what loss is?  How have you experienced loss?

4. Liebenson describes “magnanimous heat” as “a heart of balance and buoyancy.” What do these terms mean to you? Have you experienced this definition in your own life? Can you give an example?

5. What do you think Liebenson means by saying that a loss itself and the experience of a loss are two separate things? Have you experienced this separation and if so how? Has meditation helped you to differentiate the two in a positive way?

6. What differences have you noticed in the ways you experience and react to loss in different situations. For example, loss of a loved one? Loss of an acquaintance? Loss of a physical or mental function? Loss of an object that has emotional connotations for you?  Loss of a major concrete asset like a house or business or large sum of money?

7. Liebenson writes that when we clearly see this loss, “loss can bring inner wholeness, the sense that we are complete within ourselves.” If you have had this experienced, can you describe its effects?

8. LIeberson writes that, when experiencing loss, many of our previous beliefs don’t sustain and support us as they did in the past. Have you found this situation to be true in your life?  If so, please share an example with us.

9. lso advises that, in the presence of sadness and fear, to look for kindness and love. If we do, she continues, we can find them.  Does this idea resonate with you?  Have you experienced this?

10. Liebenson quotes Master Sheng Yen: No matter how great a loss is, if you fully accept it straight on, that loss will turn out to be a gain.” Has this occurred for you?  If so, please describe how and why.